My husband's niece is getting married tomorrow and we're back on the west coast for the occasion. Spent part of today in San Francisco, at places we've loved over the years.

Walking through a redwood grove and then up among the sunlit eucalyptus trees in a corner of Golden Gate Park, I thought back on the 30 years that Roger and I have been married - 31, actually, next Wednesday - and what Sigrid and Ron will embark on tomorrow. I'm not very eloquent, but here are my wishes for this young couple:

May you find yourselves by accepting the other when that's not easy to do.

May you lose yourselves - or at least your focus on yourself - as you shape a life together.

May you gain wisdom and humility as you accept your own strengths and weaknesses - and those of this person whom you've chosen to commit your life to.

May you find yourselves surprised by joy and even more, by contentment, through the years.